I say “trying,” because it doesn’t go well. Check it out, then come right back.
This video by comedian Kevin Nalts is a great physical demonstration of how we hurt ourselves in the desperate attempt to “break through” limiting beliefs. If you’re like me, you do this kind of thing all the time. Not literally, of course. I mean, we don’t actually beat ourselves over the head in our quest for self-confidence. But a lot of us beat ourselves up inside our heads, with our thoughts.
- How come the Law of Attraction works for everyone but me?
- I keep trying to get ahead, and I just can’t do it.
- Crap – I was going to meditate every day, and I forgot today.
- These negative thoughts are holding me back – Oh, there I go again!
- I had all kinds of faith in my success, and I failed anyway.
- Am I just stupid or is the Universe screwing up my life on purpose?
If you’re human, like I am, it can sometimes take a while to break through a limiting habit of thought and belief. I try to be better, but then I find myself going down the old road again – that well-worn pathway in my neurons.
I find the best way to deal with that pain is to put the board down. Let it go. I need to take care of myself and treat myself with compassion no matter what. Punishing myself for failure will not improve my odds of success – it just hurts, that’s all.
Maybe instead of trying to break through the board, I would be better off in just throwing the board out, and focusing on what I really want.
In other words, instead of trying to stop thinking a certain way, just choose different thoughts instead – like gratitude, compassion and pride in what I do.
Then it might not hurt as much.